Here's a hard truth: the salary you're offered is not always the salary you deserve. And if you don't negotiate, you leave money on the table—sometimes hundreds of thousands of dollars over your lifetime.
I know negotiation feels awkward. Uncomfortable. Like you're being greedy. But let me flip that: companies expect you to negotiate. They build negotiation room into their offers. If you don't ask, you're essentially handing them free money.
Let me give you the tools and scripts to do this with confidence.
Research First: Know Your Worth
Before you even think about negotiating, you need data. Companies certainly have data—they know exactly what they should pay you.
Here's where to look:
Glassdoor — Search your job title and company. Employees post salary ranges, and you can filter by location, years of experience, and education level. This gives you a reality check on whether the offer is in the ballpark.
Levels.fyi — If you work in tech, this is gold. It breaks down salary by company, level, and even includes base, stock, and bonus. The data is incredibly detailed.
Payscale — Similar to Glassdoor but sometimes has different data, so cross-reference. You can also see how salary grows with years of experience.
LinkedIn Salary — LinkedIn has started publishing salary ranges for many positions. It's not as detailed as the others, but it's a good sanity check.
Bureau of Labor Statistics — For more traditional roles, the BLS has median salaries by job type and location.
Once you've done your research, aim for the 50th–70th percentile of the range you find. Why not 80th or 90th? Because you're new (or new to this company), and you want to be reasonable. Once you prove your value, the bumps come later.
Write down the number. Write down three numbers actually: your target, your walk-away number, and your "nice to have" number.
When to Negotiate: The Right Moments
Not every conversation is a negotiation conversation.
The job offer — This is your biggest leverage point. The company has decided they want you, and they're offering something. This is the moment to negotiate. Salary, start date, signing bonus, remote flexibility—all on the table.
Annual review — If you've been with the company a year or more and done excellent work, this is negotiation time #2. Bring data: metrics about your work, projects you led, money you saved or made.
Promotion — Getting promoted? Definitely negotiate the new title and pay.
When you get another offer — This is leverage. A competing offer is the nuclear option for salary negotiation. Just be ready to actually take that offer if your current company won't match—never bluff on this.
The Initial Conversation: Scripts That Work
When you get an offer, your instinct might be to accept immediately or ask for a day to think about it. But here's a better move: ask about flexibility before you give an answer.
Script #1: Delaying to research "Thank you so much for the offer. I'm excited about this role. Before I give you an answer, I'd like a few days to think through the details and do a bit of research. Can I get back to you by [specific day]?"
This buys you time to research and craft your ask without pressure. That's it. No long explanation needed.
Script #2: The confident ask Once you have your research, this is how you open the negotiation:
"I'm really excited about this opportunity. Based on my research of similar roles in [location] with my experience level, I was expecting a range of $[low number]–$[high number]. I'd like to request $[target number]. Is that something you can work with?"
Notice what you did there:
- You expressed enthusiasm (so they know you want the job)
- You provided data (so it's not just you being greedy)
- You asked for a specific number (not "what can you do")
- You left room for them to counteroffer
Most of the time, they'll either say yes or come back with a higher number than you asked but lower than your target. That's called negotiation, and it's normal.
Negotiating Beyond Base Salary
Here's what most people miss: salary is just one lever. If they can't budge on base, there's a lot else on the table.
Signing Bonus — "If you can't go higher on base, could we do a $10,000 signing bonus?" Signing bonuses often come from different budgets and are easier to approve.
Remote Work — "Would this role allow for remote work?" If you were planning to move for this job, remote work might be worth more than $5,000 extra salary.
PTO — "I noticed the offer is 15 days PTO. Could we negotiate that to 20?" A week extra vacation is worth real money.
Signing Bonus AND Stock (if applicable) — In tech, equity matters. If the base is locked, ask about additional stock options or RSUs.
Start Date — "Could I push my start date to [date] to give my current employer proper notice and tie up some loose ends?" Usually companies are flexible here, and you get paid time back.
Professional Development — "Would there be a budget for conferences or certifications in this role?" $2,000–$5,000 per year adds up.
Flexible Hours — "Would this role have flexibility with hours, especially for appointments?" Flexibility is worth money.
The point: if salary is locked, you've got options.
When They Say No
Sometimes the answer is no. The salary can't move. The remote work isn't possible. But here's the thing: "no" usually means "not right now."
Script for pushing back: "I understand. Are there other forms of compensation we can explore, like a sign-on bonus or additional PTO? Alternatively, could we revisit the salary in [3 or 6 months] once I've proven my value?"
This keeps the door open. Some companies will come back and offer $3,000–$5,000 more in a signing bonus or agree to revisit salary after a probation period. That's a win.
If they truly won't budge and the salary is below market, you get to make a choice: is the job and company worth the below-market pay? Sometimes yes (you love the mission, the team, the flexibility). Sometimes no. But make it an active choice, not a passive acceptance.
Handling the Counteroffer
You negotiated, they said yes, and now you've accepted. But wait—your current employer is offering more to keep you.
Here's my advice: be very careful.
Yes, sometimes counteroffers are genuine and worth taking. But statistically, people who accept counteroffers and stay end up regretting it—they often leave within the year anyway, and their employer remembers they tried to leave.
If you decided to leave, there was a reason. More money from your current employer doesn't usually fix that reason.
Script if you want to stay: "I really appreciate the counteroffer. The opportunity at [new company] is exciting to me for [specific reasons beyond salary]. But I'm committed to the new role."
And then actually leave. Don't let them keep negotiating.
The One Rule That Matters
Always be respectful. Always be professional. Never demand or threaten (unless you have another offer, which is different).
Negotiation is a conversation between two people trying to find a number that works. You're not being difficult. You're being smart.
And honestly? Most companies respect it more when you negotiate. It shows confidence and self-awareness.
You earned this job. Now earn what it's worth.
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